is that common for them to circle back to a stage of MLC?
Yep. That’s the replay stage. They keep circling back to replay, relive, their younger lives.
H’s circling back to the possibility/threat of divorce is due to how he feels. H’s idea that a divorce will make him feel better, that it will be the road to some mythical happiness, is likely swelling up again. It’s pretty common for MLCers to cycle back and forth. H will likely turn up the baiting of you, try to get you into arguments and such. It’s his effort to find/craft justifications for his narrative.
You know better. Let H do the heavy-lifting. Don’t take the bait. Let his rants go unanswered. Remember, believe none of what they say, and only half of what they do.
Do have your ducks in row, and be prepared if H does take a sudden shift. Otherwise, focus on you. Keep living and loving your life.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
