thanks for the input. im usually good at validating but im not that great in the mornings and her feelings caught me off guard as she did a 180 in feelings from the day before. one thing she loved about me was i listened to her and it always calmed her down and ended her spiral.
she had a bad habit of looking for the smallest things that could probably end things. i would listen to her and empathize and reassure her everything was fine. a week would go by and then she would find something else to worry about. she went from im not going anywhere and you better not either and i am so deeply in love with you to things feel off.
one thing that is confusing is that we are still friends on facebook and tik tok and im getting notifications from her page. she told me that she doesnt remain friends on facebook with her exs. if shes done with me why hasnt she unfriended me?
I also wonder if she has a personality disorder. she went from me being the perfect guy to devaluing me overnight. how can we make love for 3 hrs which was not just sex we were emotionally bonding , cuddling , talking and laughing. it was the most intense thing ive ever encountered and she said the same. everything was fine for the next 4 days lots of talking and i love you, telling me she isnt going anywhere and adores me and i better not leave her as we are meant for each other and she wants to grow old with me. then the next day she wants time to think about us. how can someone change like that overnight? pedestal to devalued overnight seems disordered.
throughout the relationship she had a habit of looking for issues with us and jumping to conclusions that things wouldnt workout. i would talk her down from her tailspin and everything would be fine for a week then something tiny would happen and then rinse and repeat.
its been 12 days since we last talked. we talked every day for two months. was everything fake from her? how can she be so deeply in love with me, talking to me multiple times every day to completely cutting me off like i never existed.
