her last text was " i just need some time. i dont want to hurt you but it seems off" i reminded her that our talks usually help bring her out of her tailspin and that its normal for couples to have off days. i said i love you and i will always be there for you. she hasnt responded since.
Best would have been no response. Next option would be a simple "I understand" and then crickets. Another option: "It does feel off. Take as much time as you need"
Go to a busy coffee shop and sit near a couple women talking. Just listen to HOW they talk. Most of the conversations are relating to each others emotional states.
Learn to be a listener and DO NOT TRY TO FIX things. IE "I reminded her" is trying to fix things statement.
So everything I just said is me being a man and "fixing things".
This is more of a validation statement I could have used: "I am sorry you are going through this. It must be confusing ( or frustrating). Is that how you feel?"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
