Aerators usually are screwed on. They may be a wee bit tight. A careful (so to not scratch the faucet) application of chanel-lock pliers, a nice twist counter clockwise, and they should loosen ease-pease.
V is spot on. H isn’t use to MamaG2.0. Stay the course MG.
Originally Posted by MamaG
'I boxed up your personal belongings....let's plan for Th night.' I got a quick 'sounds good' response.
Good for you.
Originally Posted by MamaG
I could hear the reality behind the positive remark - I know that he wasn't good with his stuff getting packaged and put in a basement - and knew right away that he was feeling my distancing and 180. Perhaps, feeling my loss and his consequences.
Be cautious here. Lots of mind reading going on by you. It pretty common for LBS. After all, a long marriage and knowing someone for such a while, one gets a pretty good read on their spouse. However, that’s with old H. This pod-person, MLC H, is a different cat. Do not fall into the mind reading trap. Simply read H’s words as written. No assigning emotions or motives to them.
Originally Posted by MamaG
IF...H asks questions about why I packed his things, what is my reason?
Is it recommended that I respond with - While I don't think D is the answer, I understand our marriage is over and am looking to heal for my next chapter.
Or
- I respect you and your decision to no longer be married. You've made it clear and I'm accepting of his wishes.
Less is more with MLCers.
Both your statements are true and valid, and H will gloss over them and not really hear it. Remember, when you answer H’s questions, and only the ones you choose, you need not answer all, when you do answer - short, to the point, stick to the facts. Minimize trying to sway him or get him to see the light. He has to come to that on his own.
Lean towards not giving any reason. However, if you need to, “You moved out” should speak volumes methinks.
Take care MG,
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
