MLC Hubby wants to move out

[mamabird]

Thank you Mama! I appreciate the perspective, and having thought about it more, I agree on timing. H had a little "furnished apartment sticker shock" so no move imminent, but S20 is going back August 25, so we have to tell them pretty soon. This is going to suck and it's so unfair to them. But, the die has been cast.

The one sort of silver lining in all this is that I'm finally able to point out to H where he's been wrong in his thinking. Previously I would fear some sort of repercussion like him shutting me out but since I guess I'm already shut out it doesn't matter now. The thing is, H never spoke to me about ANY of his issues... he just "assumed"... and we all know what happens when we assume - we end up $100K (+ taxes) poorer. If only he'd said something before making this decision, he might have been able to see how HIS behavior contributed to our dynamic.