So just an update. It's now July 15th, I'm settling in nicely, getting used to way of life here and how things work. Today I have a scheduled meeting for my employment, there were some delays as initial meeting was postponed as I had to take father to emergency to eventually go through surgery. He's recovering nicely and should be leaving hospital soon. In terms of separation I'm getting a little frustrated with the whole process as it's putting a wrench into my financial situation as money from sale of house is being held in trust. We went through the whole mediation process, I agreed to something that was more favorable towards her than it was to me although for most part it was fair and I wanted the easiest path to agreement. I asked for an ammendment so my name would be removed from car loan, that was agreed upon, mediator drafted a preliminary agreement, I received it and signed it with my lawyer on the 2nd of July, the same day a copy was sent to mediator and her. It's now 13 days later and I've yet to receive a signed copy on her part with independent legal counsel. My lawyer has already asked me twice if I've received signed copy and has already stated alternative approach if I don't receive anything signed. I don't understand why it's not getting done, I actually think she's doing this purposely to control me being able to move on, even though throughout last year and half "were separated" got thrown at me time and time again as an excuse to screw other people. She's still with OM 4 so she's basically trying to have her cake and eat it too, keeping me as a backup part of roster in case things dont go her way.
There is no way she does not have some sort of cluster B personality as one of the things she said 2 months ago was she didnt want communication unless it was to deal with house or separation. So shes trying to manipulate me in some sort of way or keep me as an object or possession, or using her resentment to keep me from moving on with my life
If I don't receive her signed copy i think i will have to request for a court to enforce the terms of the agreement as she is now no longer negotiating in good faith and agreement was more than reasonable.
Im not letting any of these things phase me or block me from doing what i need to do here but i feel like any energy used to deal with this is completely unneccessary
That being said I am glad i made the decision to move here as it's conducive to the best possible environment for proper healing, i dont have any triggers here, I'm surrounded by family and a new place to explore and enjoy. The people here are friendly and welcoming and brutally honest and sincere which is how i am so that's a bonus. Its nice to be in a place where life comes first and money/career second. Food is healthier and theres abundance, heck i can pick any fruit i want at any time. Cost of living is way lower and leisure time is much more enjoyable.
