Hi, Marching. It was so great to read your update. I'm a little bit earlier in the piecing and/or reconciliation process, also with some MLC + depression or anxiety involved, and it is comforting to hear some similarities. My W is doing better communicating what she wants, initiating things for us to do together, and seemingly struggling with a bit of "I feel bad for pulling the D lever to try and address what I'm experiencing". I can relate to wanting a spouse to step up the pace and, much like you, remind myself that it will take the time it must. And, we can't lose the hard-won gains we've made in our growth, development, and GALing.
When our MC asked me to talk a bit about why W should be confident that I wouldn't drift back into previous behaviors I may have engaged in that contributed to our marital challenges, I could see her surprise when I said "Well, I've made the changes because I'm a better person for re-shaping my behaviors and habits for my betterment and to be a better relationship partner for anyone who I could meet when I expected W could D me". We are "the prize" and worth sharing a relationship with. Best wishes back to you and I look forward to your next update.
