You've all been so helpful with my first boundary...waiting on his text to come by this week so that I can set the very 1st one! Sad and excited. ugh

Separately, I'm looking to set a 'business' boundary and would love your insight....you seem to have better (and shorter) ways to message H.

In summary, H doesn't fund our joint marital acct which is near depleted. Verbally, H agreed to fund acct with weekly payments of X and we agreed to not touch our other funds bc funding with X would keep us fully allocated for the year. I REALLY don't want him to suggest that we start tapping the nest egg with my drafted message. I want to be certain that the message I send is in writing, informs him of our finances and requests confirmation that H will or will not fund the acct for further expenses. Note, H is able to access the acct to see all transactions...even though he can't be bothered to do so....perhaps my message should note this....

Marriages in my state can be filed as Fault or No-fault. I'm not saying that I'm looking to file but if it comes to a filing, I need evidence/documentation.

Here's my draft and open to your thoughts. Keep in mind that I've really turned the tables on him in a short 6 weeks - not reaching out to him, short and uninformative responses, declined offers to 'fix' things at house, been less reachable. It's a short window in which I'm applying numerous 180s (hope I'm not being impulsive nor destructive like I accuse him of doing in Sept).

Please let me know your thoughts on this message:

As you know, you have not contributed to our acct to support marital expenses since Feb 2024.

In March, I asked you why you stopped funding our acct for marital expenses and you told me that you didn't know how to send money to two different banks. At the time, you agreed that you'd look into reinstating weekly payments to our acct. To date, you have not.

I later informed you in May that I forecasted our acct would no longer support our expenses after July.

Do you plan to reinstate contributions to our acct in order to fund household and family expenses? As you know, RE taxes are coming due as well as D's college tuition - both of which are large expenses that our account cannot support.