I understand what you are saying. We may never understand all of what transpired with them. They become totally opposite of the people we knew for a while and then some revert back to their old selves while others return, but also bring along some of the "new" personality traits.
It is difficult to try to figure out if it is a personality disorder or something else because they exhibit many different traits during the crisis.
For many years, MLC was not talked about, i.e., people just sort of avoided conversations about it. I think one of the reasons that we see more and more of this happening is because people are living longer and people, now, are likely to talk about it more openly.
I read everything I could find, spoke to professionals, as well as people who had gone through a crisis, and I will never have all of the pieces to the puzzle. I still stumble across info that makes me sit and think about all of the good people who have to deal with this each and every day.
Do not feel bad about not understanding MLC. You are a survivor! Please, please never doubt yourself. You know what is true life and what is memorex.
I am glad that you are okay and continue to move forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
