Thank you RegretfulLA for weighing in on my drafted text. With the weekend upon us before I had seen your response, I went with a safe & short response instead of chancing my 'unapproved' draft in my post.
Late morning, I responded to H with a question. I asked what H needed to come get so that I'd have it ready - this would ensure that H wouldn't come into the house to access anything else nor invade my privacy. Interestingly, rather than respond with needed items, H told me he would come tomorrow and would let me know (I assume he'd let me know when). In H's text, I can hear his need to control the situation and assuming that I'm sitting on a rocking chair waiting for him to come home. Yep, still in MLC.
Plot twist.... I quickly informed H that tomorrow doesn't work (and don't plan to lose sleep over it). It's been 39 days since we've seen each other (longest period of time EVER) and I'm remaining dedicated to not reaching out to him - DBing. I also felt it interesting that H didn't provide me with what he is looking to come get....something tells me it's another touch-n-go attempt. And, I'm getting better at calling BS on his attempts.
The good news is that depending upon how follow-up texts go this week (around stopping by), I may have the opportunity to send a like message to him. Anyone else have thoughts on the response and my attempt at a boundary for this clingy boomerang in my life?
H did push D this past week in an attempt to win her over - sent 3 texts, a request for a call and a quick call out to her in the span of 30 minutes. This is on the heals of going a week without reaching out at all. H wanted to know why D doesn't respond to his texts nor reach out to him. D contemplated whether to let H have it or just continue to ignore. In the end, D did a great job of informing H how he makes her feel, that she is in therapy and on meds due to the last 9 months (BD2). She told H that he doesn't share any believable info when he reaches out, that he hasn't made any progress and suggested that perhaps it is time to get into therapy. Of course, as expected, H had an agenda (touch-n-go? or Awakening?), ignored her request to go to therapy and asked her to stay in touch because H REACHES OUT WHEN HE'S HAVING A BAD DAY AND IS LOOKING FOR HER TO BRIGHTEN HIS DAY. Yep, still in MLC. I am proud of her and hope that both my kids, adults as they may be, make it through without too many bruises. Wish I could shelter them for this craziness.
