Hi Job! I am reluctant to post to others. Most people come on here in hope of salvaging their marriage.
I came to try and understand what has happened and what MLC is. As you know from my story, my goal was to separate safely. I had a good discussion with Vanilla ( past poster) about my story. I had told her that i saw borderline personality disorder in ex-h. She replied : " no, i see psychopathy. He hurt you with the intent of doing so. I feared for my life on many occasion. I posted here because ex-h was a wonderful husband and father for many years . Very loving and caring. This other side of him made me question myself, my sanity, my judgement and my beliefs..
To tell you the truth, i still don' t understand any of it. Even 15 yrs later, i can' t make sense of it.
