Good Morning What

Like job said, they do relive from “when” they were emotionally stunted. It is akin to time travel. They feel like back then. Have memories and desires of back then. The present day responsibilities and such are both run from and not really felt; as in a teenage H wasn’t married or had kids back then.

My XW is (re)living her teenage years. Over and over. She knows the kids, yet doesn’t. Her feelings are mostly vacant and pushed down/buried. She recalls details of that time with uncanny clarity and boggling belief that it is present day. An example, she asked the kids about DnJ’s (my name, not Dad, not referenced as XH) blue LTD with the zebra stripped seat covers. That was a 1977 LTD. My first car. Her and I drove around in it lots while dating. That was almost 40 years ago. Imagine the confusion.

Depression and confusion are major hallmarks of a crisis. The overlaying of past and present lives and details. It’s an emotionally driven hot mess, a hodgepodge. And they cannot handle it!

Like you’ve seen. The MLCer refuses help. Most will and do refute such help or diagnosis. As much as something is very wrong, they run and refuse to acknowledge or believe it. Ah, running. As far as they run, there they are. A simple truth, which they too, run from.

Originally Posted by Whatlee
Actually moved to the same apartments we lived in when S25 was born.

They do recreate similar, even the same, younger teenager life. Lots will recreate past events and experiences, along with trying new behaviours and activities. All in their futile attempt to live or do over what they feel they missed out on.

H will continue to hit his brick wall, over and over, until he finds his rock bottom. If he finds his rock bottom.

Originally Posted by Whatlee
I checked into going back to school part time and I'm seriously considering it.

Fantastic! What area of study?

Originally Posted by Whatlee
Had some really bad varicose veins, cartarized and removed. OUCH!!!!!!

I bet you’re glad that’s over. The pain of surgery being well worth the pain-free from the varicose veins.

Hope you have a wonderful day.

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