What can I do differently?

[RegretfulLA]

Hi Mama,
Thanks for stopping by my thread over in MLC...
I had read your story previously and boy, what a doozy... I think about you often. Your H has put you through the ringer and then some.

You are one strong lady. I have had cancer too and it takes A LOT to get through it. With everything going on in your family, I have to commend you for handling it all with grace. At the time, my children were very small and I had a lot of help. Wishing you a full recovery. I will say that cancer can be a growth experience so this is interesting timing for you.

You wrote on my thread that having H in his own house was good for your mental health. I can see that. A big part of me just wants my H to move out but we aren't set up financially for that and we live in a big expensive city.

One thing that comes through in your story - I think your H still loves you. He is wearing his wedding band. It is a shame that he won't go to therapy. Sounds like he has a lot of issues to work through, and tattoos aren't going to solve that for him. Some people are never ready to go because it's just too scary and hard; much easier to self medicate and whatnot.

Anyway, you are on the right path. Keep it up!