Good morning, Catman. It sounds like you're making lots of good progress. As you say, we can experience setbacks or relapses along the way too. You start talking about detachment and later comment that the statements you're sharing about your XW are just observations, rather than things that bother you. At the same time, I read how her use of old terms of endearment sticks "in your craw". A fair amount of the 2nd and 3rd paragraphs above get into a fair amount of guessing at her thinking or intentions or being critical of her actions (with the car payment situation for example). When I read those paragraphs, it felt like the opposite of detachment given the amount of detail you went into. The last paragraph about having bad days also made me further think that as you prepare to depart, it is reasonable to experience mixed feelings and revisit that attachment or loss a bit. As you suggest, don't be afraid to let those feelings flow or they'll find another way out. I'm glad to read that you're going to continue to connect with your therapist. A D and international move are two, major life events at once. I admire your ability to keep it together to do both in such close proximity.
