So very glad I asked before responding - that 24 to 48 hours is needed on so many fronts. Feedback is super helpful. Being the middle of this makes it difficult to see forest/trees. And, I must say, after stepping away from my response and reading it hours later, it is quite bold and cold. Would definitely not be bringing me closer to my goal. THANK YOU for saving me! It's exhausting but I will dig for more patience. LOVE the comment of 'STFU smoothies' - I laughed out loud!
On the timing front, H generally texts early morning (before work shift) or at lunch. Both times of day are when H isn't 'medicating'. "Medicine" has been a night time thing. Any insight on time of day to respond with brevity - while medicating or sober?
I really am recovering nicely and back on my feet - drove for the first time today to GAL! Being able to get up and go more will allow me to GAL more and get out of my head. It's been a rough couple weeks.
R2C: do you think H is pursuing me (on a small scale!) with his texts of 'care' or is H a clingy boomerang?
DnJ: "The MLCer will cease their running behaviours, withdrawal inward, shrink from the world and everybody while they figure out and face their demons and what they’ve done. It’s one of the more critical phases for them. Some crisis folks regress back to running for a bit, some go back and forth a few times, yet with good fortune they will keep progressing forward and work their way through it and enter the stage(s) of acceptance." H has been able to increase the amount of time he spends with me before running, but H definitely runs every time. H has had days of less running and then days of more running. I've seen that - this is helpful insight. I wonder if H is moving towards end of replay - again, hard to know since we don't spend much time together. I'm at peace with this. Just makes it hard to know how deep in depression he's in. I digress. Focus on me.
Good clarification - when H is doing (not trying). I certainly do make excuses for him. Thanks for the call out.
I looked at the thread explaining how to get those boxes to quote others and can't seem to get it. Can someone provide me with step-by-step instructions?
