MLC Hubby wants to move out

[RegretfulLA]

You are handling your situation quite well. I hope that you are doing well. This madness takes a toll on the mind, body and soul.

@Job - thank you. Sadly, I have gotten really good at detachment over the years. The walls went up a long time ago and now I can just put them back up pretty easily. It's a pretty effective defense mechanism and some say it's a healthy practice (maybe not in a marriage but with regards to other bulls***t in life).

I actually am doing ok. H is broken and hasn't been the kind of H I have wanted for a long time, so rational me wonders why I would want to be with someone like that and it makes it easier to detach. I look at the wedding ring sitting there and I feel sad but I also feel like that if he wants to self destruct, that's on him. Like I said, this has been going on for years.

H went on a short overnight business trip and I do not plan to call/text. H can get the message that I am not that interested in whatever he is doing.

I guess not having the ring on makes him feel somewhat empowered but I'll be damned if he ever uses the word "we" when he has to explain this to our families/friends/whatever. This is 100% him and I will make sure everyone knows that.