So the last time H and I talked back in Feb, (we've been NC since)he was concerned abt who would take care of him financially if he couldn't work anymore. H said he could move in with his sister or mom and step-dad but wouldn't feel right taking his spouse with him for them to take care of. We haven't been very smart over the years with our finances and really have nothing. We've lost houses and cars, he made really good money, we have nothing to show for it. I feel like I have nothing to offer him, he's looking for somebody that can support him if that time comes, so why would he come back? I have worked 2 and 3 jobs at a time since 2019, seems like it was too little too late. I should have been doing that as soon as our youngest started school, it would have taken pressure/stress off of him and we might still have something. Not beating myself up just self examining and wondering, if his concern and NC is part of one of the phases. I will say that even though I hate the NC and dont understand it, it has gotten easier. I'm sorry I can't help but wonder abt the phases when things are said or done or not said or done.
