Hi Ma. I'm glad to read that you're doing well. As you say, these situations are tough. I second your thoughts about the amazing advice memorialized and available here. It is amazing how our partners shift away from our children at times. My wife acknowledged at one point that part of her interest in a D was to enable her to essentially only be an active parent 50% of the time. I hope your XH comes around before too much distances builds up between he and your children. I know you'll keep working on taking care of your individual needs....still a long road of healing ahead. It will be good to hear your continued progress if you're able to spare the time to share!