Good to hear from you Maturin. Yeah one has to do what's best for their life, DBing is the goal but in the end you cannot sacrifice every part of yourself for someone who isn't willing to self reflect or enact change. To me the marriages that do stand a chance are the ones where the offending spouse is willing to put in some effort and had some genuine remorse. I think the minute they double down on being the victim or geed their resentment towards their spouse, they have lost track of the plot. I don't think anyone on this earth deserves to be a secondary option in their own sacred marriage contract. Unfortunately too much outside influence and societal pressure/peer pressure and self entitlement tends to become the guide for lost souls. Do your best with your children and they will value that more than anything. At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself the questions : did I do everything I could? , did I fight to my last breath for the marriage?, can I live with the person that I have become?, do I want to compromise my values for someone who's values are based on the moment?
Maybe one day she will show true remorse or regret, but forcing yourself and hoping and wishing for that to come is a fruitless endeavour
