DnJ, wow, you have been through a lot. So sorry about your cousin and especially sorry for his wife. What a h*ll she must be going through.
And then the Russian novel of XW continues. I actually think about her from time to time, the difference between our ex-es is so pronounced. She seems to have been a completely different person and then snapped, not only with you but in the way she sees her own children, and I can't wrap my head around a mother being able to love and then suddenly not loving I don't think about my marriage as something real, so it's hard to imagine that playing out in the way it did for you. I'm still not free of my situation, but that update will take me a while to write down and I will try one of these days on my thread. And of course I still think about your kindess and the fact that you would always be there for anyone of us, then and now. ((((DnJ)))))
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.