What can I do differently?

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I'm no expert. But in my desperate search for answers I did save all kinds of threads that I thought helped me understand better. Perhaps some of these are a place to start. I have so many more bookmarked but not organized.

MLC Resources - All links in one thread
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2592296#Post2592296

Gerda’s Guide to the Early Stages
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2918139#Post2918139

The Six Stages of a Mid Life Crisis, by Hearts Blessing. (also, google this)
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484776&page=1

Hearts Blessing: There are people on this board whose spouses have had a quick fix and come back to them fairly rapidly. What they discover is that, until all of the issues have been dealt with by the MLCer, it is impossible for their relationship to work out.
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2253897#Post2253897


Eagle3 - Who just returned to post part of the afterstory
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2942963&page=1

Musing from AmyC
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2253741&page=all

Gerda - Dealing with this 10 years now?
https://www.divorcebusting.com/foru...amp;id=36412&view=started&page=1


around 50, people transition - And they run. They are looking for a way to feel better. Looking for a redo
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2947195#Post2947195

Its Disillusionment on our spouses part and tied with MLC its the fuel that sends them running along with the issue they are not willing to face at this time in the crisis. ALL THIS IS OUT OF YOUR CONTROL
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2728169#Post2728169


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