While agreeing with her might get her to stop fighting. Trying to be cooperative and agreeing with her has only enabled her to do as shes been doing, to me this is a boundary pushing exercise. When you try a specific approach and it backfires every time, the only choice is to take control and set clear lines in the sand. Ive agreed to go with mediation, which is something that she wanted and she has taken advantage of the less seriousness of that, so far as to even be warned by mediator that if pension paperwork wasnt handed in when it was supposed to that it would cause complications with house sale and with separation process. When i left it up to her to take things before to clear house to stage it, she took her time and focused on new relationship. So i know and am being clearly shown the soft approach is inneffective. Ive gotten to this situation largely because of being a doormat and continuing to be that has only made things more difficult and dragged on things.
As joseph said i am not dealing with a serious person so you cannot bargain with such people. If i give her the 22nd she will wait until the day of.
Im taking the path i am taking now because ive had enough of this situation and bargaining and cooperation have been done only by me and noone else. There comes a time when the carrot and the stick approach requires more stick than carrot
