On the contract of sale of home its stipulated that home is to be left completely empty. Typically if it isnt then the buyer can and usually does empty the home at the expense of the seller and the adjustment is made to the disbursement of closing proceeds. Im really not trying to stay in contact with her other than to deal with logistics. Im cutting all ties in terms of divorce not to try and save marriage, thats clearly not going to happen. I need clean slate because im making a permanent move to another country, i also need documentation of divorce as i am legally married in country im going to. I want this because these are things i dont want to have to deal with when i get there, and i have new career ready to go so i want my focus 100% on there and that. I also want to carry as little emotional and financial baggage as possible. Not that im looking to meet anyone, only when im ready, i do not want any ties whatsoever when and if this happens as well.
My frustration is the fact I need to use legal channels for things that shouldnt be necessary and is costing me more than it should, for basic things. She has clearly moved on but is trying to manipulate the situation as much as possible. I have a lot on my plate in terms of dealing with things related to my move so her back and forth comittiing to given days is forcing me to alter my plans, i need dates and times and a rough plan. I will make due one way or another but i needed to give her a drop dead date or else nothing gets done and it still interferes with my itinerary one way or another. I know i cannot control her and thats not the point.
In terms of detachint emotionally, i fully expect that to happen naturally when ive left the country. Also im a man of faith and its very important to me to not be legally married, between church and state, as i believe it is the right way to do things moving forward and its the best way to be fair to any new partner. I know it might sound just like a logistical thing to others, but had it not been for faith i probably would be in a much worse space than i have been. Ive looked to a lot of scripture as a way to guide my actions and intentions and it has served me well.
