Thank you Joseph. While I agree I cannot control her and should only focus on me. I am living in the home and I need to have it empty by specific dates, and because I am not keeping very much of what's in here as I'm moving overseas. I need to know what to dispose of/give away/sell. I'm still legally liable for having this home clear even if i leave it to her. She's become heavily unreliable and delays everything and I can actually see her not being bothered at all. I have far too many times let her drive the bus and control how my life goes - delaying home sale last year (i need her signature), delaying destroying of embryos (need her signature), and delaying the mediation ( I need her to get her pension valuation). While it seems i can do my part and let her do her own, had i left this situation up to her wed not even be selling the house and based on what shes said she was perfectly fine us living in this arrangement of me living in this house, not being legally separated, so finances tied together as long as debts and assetsx and she continues living her life with other prople while i want all ties cut.
To me dropping the rope means, not holding any assets with her, not being tied to her debts, not being legally married and being free to start over and build my new life without her in the picture in any way. While it may seem im trying to exert control on her by setting dates, i really am not bothered by how she sees it because shes just a teenager in mind right now. I need to regain as much control of how my own life goes from this point on
