Hey Catman. Ugh. Not an easy part of the process to go through. It sounds exceptionally rough.
We often say here "Let go of the rope...or be dragged" and I feel like I see a bit of that here. Your focus seems to be on her and your reactions tied to her actions. I may be wrong but that doesn't seem like indifference. Definitely disdain though and that isn't indifference.
Guessing her intentions is fruitless. Frequently, people in affairs or MLC have the mindset of a teenager. I hope to hear much less about her in your future posts and more about you, the 180s you are doing, how you are GALing in the midst of all this, and what you might be doing in terms of self care.
It is understandable to vent, to grieve, and express that and more here. I'm just recommending a pivot here to a greater focus on you and what's in your control. Maintain your boundaries, follow-through on facts you've stated like getting her things out of the house, and act as if your truly "immune" to her attempts to manipulate you when the OM lets her down. She fired you from the position of husband so all the benefits that come along with it should be revoked when she comes back your way.
Easier said then done, I know. Lots of success stories out here from people who stick to it. I hope as we continue to read that you'll be another one.
