I so appreciate the advice and I need to apologize for my success comment from earlier. Every situation is different and to some of the LBS's whose situation was really bad divorce may be a success to them. So I do apologize.
I am no longer trying to fix him. I have completely turned him over to God. I have set goals for myself and I just keep chugging along.
There is absolutely no contact with him, except for yesterday he did text with a question abt our YS. I answered the question and when he responded I responded with, "cool." Wasn't being ugly that's just how I was feeling in the moment.
I will have to say I don't feel anxious anymore when I get a text from him or when I'm at work waiting on 5 o'clock, I know after 5 I'm not gonna hear anything from an atty😁.
It is extremely hard not talking to him, we've been together since I was 15yrs old and I just turned 50. To go from seeing and talking to him everyday to NC....smh. It's been 1yr 8months since the BD, however I'm not real sure how long he's been in crisis before that.
I'll just keep standing in the gap for my family, I know what a counselor can't do my God can.
