I may step on some toes here but, I don't think most therapist are equipped to handle MLC. You have to be a really well read therapist who get's it or you have been through one yourself to at least be in a position to help a person navigate MLC. Plus, if your right about your husband and a therapist get's to close to the pain, they run, that's what they do.
Hopefully this helps. Sorry if it's scattered but this was 18 yrs ago and I'm really testing the memory.
First off...
Mirage, my old friend...
I hope that you are doing well and the answers come more peaceful now than when we first met....
It's good to see you telling your story..
Secondly.
From my experience, MLC is very specific , because there are no two MLCs alike. Each of them are unique as their "owner" is, which makes it very difficult to formulate a clinical diagnosis.
MLC is however a depression, even though it only manifests in certain areas of a their life publicly.
MLC is very different however, behind closed doors. That is when their demons come out to play inside of their heads.
Most MLCers appear normal to the rest of the world, and only those closest to them get to see them with their "mask" removed.
Many see them as normal, and rational, even though what they are going through is an enormous internal rage.
Additionally, many therapists aren't equipped to address moral issues with a person. They merely try to treat the person and not their actions.
You aren't happy in your marriage ? Well then you should Divorce
Doesn't make it right, it just makes it seemingly easier...
And sadly, most clinicians have to formulate a diagnosis after the first visit for insurance purposes now, which is an enormous dis-service to the patient.
If an MLCer says that they are fine and nothing is wrong, who is the therapist to further evaluate them ?
They most likely only know them from the recent conversations, so to know them on a prior level typically does not happen.
I would venture though, that the biggest problem with a diagnosis would be getting an MLCer to actually admit that something wasn't right.
Most are so steadfast in their "new" life decisions that even they can't recognize how messed up their life has become.
And as my friend Mirage has said ??
They WILL run from anything that threatens their mindset.
Most good therapists will see through them, and send them running...
Most novice therapists will tell them to follow their happiness...
Either way, I haven't talked to any former (admitted) MLCers that kept a regular therapist schedule through their tunnel...
Listen to Mirage, and as long as he will keep opening up, hopefully you can learn from his wise words...
