I'm caught - Do more of what works....seems to be including him in events and doctor appts, but I'm so anxious to have him hit rock bottom. Not sure how to marry these up. He is a true friend and companion when we're together, especially doctor appts. I have no expectations that I'll get a text for Mother's Day tomorrow (although it would be nice) despite not having heard from him since 5/4. Why 5/4? Well, I've learned that H only reaches out for a doctor appt. and there wasn't any last week. Other than doc appts, the last time he reached out to me out of the blue was at 10:30 pm on Easter Sunday - wanted to know how my day. Of course my response (the next morning) used the 'as if' approach. I told him that it was a great day full of laughs. Told him I missed him and then asked how his was. H said Easter was good but H's night wasn't good. Whether I get a text tomorrow or not, I'm thinking ahead to my surgery on 5/24. Do I remind him of the surgery and ask him to take me to the appt, under the "do what works" approach? Or, do I leave him as he fired me as a wife and not remind him of surgery? I know eventually H will know that I had surgery and wonder why I didn't include him as with other appts.
