I occasionally read on the forum but haven't replied or been on for years. My original screen name was Spirit, then changed to Mirage. I've been divorced for probably 14 yrs. It's hazy now since I'm way past all of this but you asked about MLC. I'll give you my version of going through MLC.
Take the most amount of pain you think you can handle physically and tranfer all that into your head. For me I constantly had mental anguish. My main goal was to make it from waking up in the morning(that's if I even slept, most nights a couple hours) to evening without feeling like the mental pain was going to end me.
MY MLC lasted for 2 1/2 years. This is a rather short MLC from what I read and understand of it. and I have read volumes and feel like I am a pro. I break MLC into 2 categories internal and external. Mine was internal so no woman, cars etc. I went inside myself and read as much as I could on the subject. I found things that were helpful along the way which eventually lead to exiting the MLC tunnel(a much better person). The outside MLC'ers will last longer in my estimation. I was able to find the source of my pain and come to grips with it but still took 2 1/2 yrs.
MLC'ers run. that's what they do, and confused most of the time. They run from that pain I described. Don't take this the wrong way. my opinion only and have been shatised on here for it in the past. only a certain amount of people make it through MLC to the other side. I wished everybody did but it takes a certain internal strength to look at the things that stunted you in your past, deal with then take responsibility for it.
You asked, I'm as honest as I can be to what it was like for me. People that have MLC's and make it to the other side can give insight. MLC'ers that do not will tell you years later that you don't know what your talking about.
For the record. I went through an MLC at 40 came out of it at 42 1/2. I think I came out of it a better man. but at 44 my now EXW went through an MLC(details in my story somewhere on here) but we never reconciled and from what I hear occasionally through my now adults kids still shows a lot of MLC tendencies. Also for the record I got an e-mail approx 12 yrs after bomb day just to check test the water and see if there was any chance.
