What can I do differently?

[Pattnee5]

Oh one last thing. If he blames you it’s never about you. It’s never about us this whole MlC. It’s always been about something in their childhood or teen or their own years that they have buried and stuffed down that is coming to the surface to be dealt with. There’s so many amazing old posts in these forums which helped me understand and accept this. H blamed me for anything and everything.Even as far as not putting my plate in the dishwasher some mornings when I was rushing off to work. But it’s never us. It’s always them. It’s their time to emotionally mature and grow and deal with those issues from their past that they have ignored. Seeing the bigger picture now I can see patterns in my H sister of MLc behaviour. Multiple divorces, sports car, running behaviour, bouncing from man to man never happy or satisfied( and now mentoring her little brother to do the same). It really is a horrible time but trust the man you once knew is still in there and he had the tools to dig his way out 😘