It sounds like our H's are in the same place in MLC tunnel. Maybe they're enjoying their pot and cycling together. sigh. You're not alone. I'm in a similar place; some differences. H and I were married 26 years this past week. Spent the morning together. Came back to our family home to play cards until he had to go his house (yes, he bought a house and move out in Dec) to take a nap before an appt. Can't make this stuff up, and worse, can't explain it. It's hard. very hard. Hand in there and know you're not alone.