This is a lot more common than we think. Between tik tok, instagram, media, it almost feels like breakingbof the nuclear family is being pushed on everyone. And with women they tend to air their grievances with their female friends and as the critical mass of women leaving good marriages grows, single, divorced and unfaithful women are pushing each other to do the same. Either to live in shared misery and to have company or to give them entertainment and drama to talk about amongst each other. I think the difference with men is we tend to gravitate to other family oriented male friends who encourage us to work on our marriages, and that's if we even talk to them about our married life. I find most men keep their home life private even from their friends out of respect for their spouses. Women tend to be the opposite they feed off each other's grievances and tell each other to break things rather than fix them. Older women like mothers and successfully married women when giving advice tend to be seen as old fashioned and submissive. Mine said she didn't want our marriage to be like her parents or my parents and that their marriages were too traditional. So they seek advice from social media and friends who are living broken lives. The prevalence of dating apps and Instagram gives women the false illusion that guys who are dming th3m or trying to hook up on dating apps are viable mates and partners. So they go feet first thinking they can do better but then will soon realize the men on dating apps and Instagram just want to use them.
It's quite sad really to see all of this in play. But remember something you have all the power. In the dating market, older, more traditional men are seen as a much bigger prize by younger women who want serious relationships and the women being tricked into thinking they can do better in their 40s are in for a rude awakening. And if they ever do realize they messed up instead of admitting and showing regret and remorse they will carry bitter resentment to their exes instead of doing the hard work of self reflecting and doing the inner work to seek happiness from within
