Not much I can add, other than that my situation is practically a mirror of yours. I guess it's practically a mirror of a lot of other people's on this site as well.
Screenshotted that Zues126 quote on marriage vows. It expresses my views better than anything else I've read.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023