As I said before, XW and I are coparenting pretty well. But this last week has pissed me off some.
We have a 2-2-5 custody schedule, which we have yet to follow. That's mostly due to us moving during the first month, our work schedules, sons practice schedules and activities, etc. And that's been working pretty well for us. Historically, I work 7-3ish, and she works 9-5ish. This week she basically said that she can't leave work early every day to pick him up from school, and since I 'always get home at 2, I shouldn't have a problem getting him'. So basically, I leave work early and get him from school, take him to practice from 5-7, then drop him at her place after. Apparently it never crossed her mind that once divorced, she would have to adjust her precious work schedule (which she can easily do) to meet his needs.
Then, I got him from school yesterday, and she texted that she was picking him up at 5. I planned on having him all night. I said ok, and told him he would come to my place tomorrow (tonight). She texted this morning and said going back and forth is really bothering him, and he wants to stay at her place tonight. I wrote back and told her that's fine, but we need to start following the schedule.
I don't think she wants that, because it would mean she would have to adjust her schedule, start taking him to practices, etc. I hate to 'make' our son stay at one of our places if he doesn't want to on a particular night. But I also hate forcing him to decide where he wants to go every night.
Following the court ordered custody schedule is the right thing to do. But it's not always possible.
End rant
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
