Congratulations to son on the wrestling tournament. I enjoy seeing kids involved in activities other than their phone. lol.
The dreams come and go. It’s one’s subconscious declutterring, organizing, categorizing, etc. I find the dreams never really go away; I still dream about XW every now and then. I also dream about old gone pets and grandparents, my childhood, previous vacations, learning to drive, family camping, flying (like superman, not in a plane, though I have dreamt about being a pilot too), building my deck, my kids, my work and career, and on and on. My XW is a rather wee sliver of the landscape of my dreams.
Funny thing, I dreamt about her just before waking up this every morning. Like most dreams it was kind of odd. My Mom and daughter were in it too, and we were all back in my childhood home.
We were standing in the never-used front door area. It was a small approximately four by four foot area with a coat closet to the right upon entry and directly entering the living room to the left. We always used the back door as the front was for letting the dog in and out and retrieving the mail.
Anyhow, I awoke from my slumber, recalled the fond memories - yes that included XW (a benefit of forgiveness I suppose), got up, and when about my day. The likely reason for such subconscious mental stirrings - Easter weekend. The family is getting together here today for super and visiting.
It takes time. My personal guideline is about one year after divorce is finalized to settle. Each milestone (as applicable in situation and locale) - separating, legal separation, cooldown period, divorced signed by both parties, and divorce signed and finalized by courts/judge - takes a period of time to settle. For the fortunate, the process of reconciliation has milestones that also require time to find one’s balance and center.
Turns out, time is companion along our journey, not an adversary. Walk with time, walk with peaceful intent. In time, dreams no longer yield sad or mad.
Have a wonderful Easter.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
