You are correct. Fundamentally, nothing has changed.
Originally Posted by Lb23
her recent musings about holidays together etc. Now I have become even more of the horrible man she has to get rid of.
She’s all over the place.
You did toss a few truth darts her way (or maybe more than a few) and she did not like it, and she lashed out at you. Realize, she cannot be wrong or accountable. She cannot accept that. She must blame someone else.
She twisted you about with talk of holiday time and then became hellbent on separating. Her path is emotionally driven and consuming. And will zig zag all over the place.
Yes, her current path, trajectory, morals, and such are less than stellar. You cannot control her nor her path. She is on her journey. And you, thankfully, were not invited along.
Calling her parents and such did promote fighting. And fighting begets fighting. You can only control your thoughts, actions, and reactions.
Don’t fret, no one thing you do, or don’t do, will make or break things. Get back up. Dust off. And keep moving forward.
A few positives out of this interaction. More of the situation is out in the open. You demonstrated to W that you are not a doormat. And you realized some more places for self growth.
You’ve seen how clear it is. W is on her path.
Focus back onto you and the kids. Give lots of time and space. Have good strong boundaries. And live and love your life.
Hope you have a great weekend.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
