Right now you are fighting with her a lot. You'd achieve more right now by setting your focus on being an attractive man with better things to do than argue back and forth over minutia.
It took me many months to get close to this. You may be faster or slower but I promise you that you can decide to be your own motivator or your own detractor.
PMA 24/7. Attitude-thoughts-words-actions: set these in the right direction.
Make a commitment right now to:
1) Never argue with a woman again. Women need the man to be stronger, the leader. Control your emotions. Let them vent theirs. Command respect by setting and enforcing boundaries if needed.
2) Attempt to control her. I do not want to be with a woman who does not want to be with me. I do not share my woman (sexually) with other people.
Add anymore to the list that you want.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
