I agree with postponing the finalizing appointment with the mediator until your L has looked over things. This is likely the biggest financial decision of your life, it’s wise to ensure you have proper counsel.
Originally Posted by grok
Just now W came in with tears and anger.
When she comes at you with tears and anger, she’s not looking for advice or for her problems to be solved. She’s looking to be heard is all. She just wants to vent. Also, she looking for you to fight back. For a resupply of her justification.
Good job remaining calm.
Originally Posted by grok
W later via text,
“What is the intention with the lawyer? Do I need one of my own?”
Therein lay the likely reason for her outburst.
You have a lawyer. You have taken control of your life and choices. (Recall her tirade, she felt she doesn’t have options.) Her loss of control over you and the situation is upsetting her.
Do not answer her. Let her stew. She fired you as husband. You are days away from finalizing a separation agreement, let her feel that, let her lay in the bed she’s made. Do not solve this for her.
W’s statement: Think with your HEART for once!" "Where are your emotions?! That says a lot of where she is.
You don’t think with your heart! One thinks with their brain, and feels with their heart. Well, not really. Thinking, feeling, and such, all occurs within the brain. Anyhow, this illustrates the emotional path she is on.
Love the splashing around the rain and puddles. OMG! It’s been years since my kids were young and I remember running around with them in the rain. So much fun!
Well done Dad!
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Anyhow, this illustrates the emotional path she is on.
