Support comes when you release Fear

I felt very alone and afraid of telling people anything for a long time. Most of what I knew came from W telling me things in confidence in an odd sort of trust. Shall I tell others and have it circle around breaking this limited trust? Would the information be used by others in cruel or heavy handed ways causing further damage? Eventually I figured out how to tell people just the basic facts in a without coming across as … being out to cause W deliberate injury.

“Hi D17’s gymnastics teachers. I need to change out the payment sources. No, I’m not removing her. Her mom left me this year and told me she is “In Love” with another man and wants a divorce. I have to make a bunch of changes and adjustments.” To my surprise, both ladies behind the counter turned to me and the first thing they said was, “OH! G are you OK? Do you need anything?” I was shocked. I don’t know what I was expecting. They know W and D17. They don’t know me really.

As part of GAL, I’ve been going to a local brew house for trivia night. A couple of the regulars I got to hang out with know but some of the others did not this last week.
“What you looking at on your phone G? Shouldn’t be work so seriously…” I turn the phone around and show the title “Marital settlement agreement.”
“Was this a surprise G?”
“When she told me she was in love with a married guy who apparently promised to leave his wife for her and he has a 2 yr old and a newborn it was a surprise.”
Mostly from the married ladies around the table: “WTF G! Like that would ever f’n happen G! F that G! That never works in real life G! ” along with snorts of disgust. I felt better.

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H:55 XW:50
D19, D18, S13
ILYBINILWY 3/23
DB1 4/23, rescinded 5/23, DB2 6/23 ("I can't do this, I Love HIM")
Legal Mediation 1-5 & W leaves 8/23 – 3/24
Settlement 5/24, Court 9/11/24 <-, D 9/16/24