Secondly, I have been reading more about attraction and there appears to be contradicting guidance. There is the distancing / detachment, and then there is trying to "softly" reconnect by working on communication, doing fun things together etc. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
You are going to test any new behavors and see if it "works". "What Works" has many different defintions.
Go hit the gym 3+ times a week. Control what you eat. Learn behaviors that women in gerneral like. Drop those that they don't. The list goes on and on.
Read the art of seduction. Then keep reading other books. Watch youtube.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
