One more item to mention, and it's important. During the first conversation I told W that she decided to "blow up our family" when she had the affair and that I wasn't overly sympathetic to her needing more time, or taking it slowly. She grabbed on to that and said "I can see you're still not over it and still angry about it". She's not wrong.
This back and forth speaks to the fact that W refused to engage in any form of reconciliation-type discussion at all, and swept all of this under the rug as fast as possible. My "moving forward" has been done alone in therapy and confiding to close friends/family. It's my view that this process will pick up speed once we no longer live together, hence my desire to move forward.
