My son worked with me at my company for a while and my husband went off on him about how he wasn't doing anything with his life working at an event coordinating company. funny thing is that we both make a significant amount more than my husband. they are nutty and only see their view.
Yes, their view is pretty narrow. And they do tend to tune out, ignore, discard, anything that goes counter to their view/script/narrative.
Three of my kids own houses with mortgages, and one is renting until his phd program location is figured out. They all have incomes greater than Mom, most far greater. Married/engaged, strong relationships and friends. Yet, XW/Mom feels she can/should criticize and dispense life advice.
You know, my XW actually told me, while acknowledging my retirement, that my career path was wrong. I should’ve had multiple different jobs/careers, like a dozen, over the years. Staying with one company for 33 years is rare and basically dumb. Haha. lol. I simply agreed to disagree with her.
Originally Posted by jessieht
I do think the pulling away is helping me in my situation a lot.
Good. Keep doing more of what works. And of course, less of what doesn’t.
Originally Posted by jessieht
I do know he is still in contact with the ap, and there have been some days that I know there has been some drama between them and she is looking at my social media quite often. I dont think she knows i can see this because she has a burner account but she is doing it from her phone so it shows me it is her phone number. lol. I am hoping for her to go crazy on him enough to teach him a good lesson to never do this again.
LOL. Can see her phone number. So much for her stealth surfing.
Affairs usually have quite a bit of drama. They’ll overlook it for a while, then kaboom! Crazy comes out. Stay well clear of the affair, it’s drama, etc. Any involvement only paints a target on you. Let them feel all their misguided choices. Perhaps some life lessons will be acquired.
People will work hard against changing. It usually requires hitting rock bottom, having the pain of continuing out weigh the pain of changing.
I think you handled H’s tantrum and then the movie night really well. Boundaries. H needs to ask politely. Nicely done with thanking H afterwards; reinforcing the good behaviour.
Have a great weekend.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
