So WW texted me that when all is said and done we can still remain friends
Yep, a pretty common thing. It’s them trying to assuage their guilt and shame methinks.
My XW had similar lofty crazy ideas of us (her, OM, kids, me) all having drinks and barbecues on the deck once the dust settled. In my case, that sentiment of her’s didn’t last long, everyone - friends and family, were tossed aside as she ran to her shinny new life.
They say all kinds of things. Whatever they feel. Look to the actions.
For the most part: Believe nothing they say, and only half of what they do.
Originally Posted by Catman19
Yeah I replied, I'm not your gay friend to talk about the guy you banged while married to me
I’d recommend not poking the bear. You are in the midst of a divorce. No need to antagonize W and have her turn contentious in negotiations.
Also, it has an effect upon you. I get the feeling of such a truth dart. However, feelings are fleeting. Your action(s) will be long lasting. Look deep and be/do better. Be your best self.
Same for the yoga payment on your credit card. You don’t have to answer her.
Step back and give 24-48 hours before answering W. That gives you plenty of time for your feelings to extinguish and for you to decide what, if any, rational thought out response you’d give.
Originally Posted by Catman19
I told her it was a gift card because she doesn't need to know what I'm doing.
Right away the texts start coming one after the other: Is it for your girlfriend I'm happy you found someone I'm glad you moved on I hope you have a family and are happy
All clearly sarcastic replies
Personally, silence would be better than some “white” lie. Lying, of any color, is a heavy yoke upon you, and a troublesome burden as you struggle to keep it all straight. Besides, now she’s off on some tangent. Yes, sarcastic replies, which is all just more fodder and fuel for the fire. If she doesn’t need to know what you’re doing then just don’t respond. IMHO.
Originally Posted by Catman19
I find it mind-boggling that someone who's been with her AP for now over a year have the audacity to even show even a hint of jealousy at me potentially talking to someone
Yep. What a tormented mind.
Keep moving forward towards whole and healed.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
