I would just initiate mediation, they will ask for full financial disclosure from separation date then you 2 can negotiate with mediator directly. She's just pretending to go through the process and dragging it out because she is either confused or doesn't take this seriously and you are allowing her to feel this way by waiting for her to deal directly with you. I'm in the same boat as you brother difference slightly as I forced the mediation issue and have consulted lawyer before her. Make everything clear in front or a professional you cannot deal with her directly she is still being irrational and by suggesting tou both keep home is just more delusion and her having her cake with you