W actually did volley a mini proposal. She emailed proposing we look after the house together and said she doesn’t want to sell the house and have S and I have to move. She suggested that we continue our investments that come out of our shared account and then later split them in half at some point (undefined timeline). Soon after BD, W had posed that maybe she keep the house and I keep my pension (she does not have a pension).
I plan to let L know about my needs as well as tell L about discussions so far between W and I.
Forward the email to your lawyer, tell your lawyer you won’t entertain any solution where you aren’t completely and entirely disconnected from your wife and let the lawyer sort it out.
You are continuing to waste your 80 laps around the sun with this idiot. Cut the cord. Split the assets definitively, your kids are adults, block her phone and live what’s left of your life.
I get the general advice that DNJ gives to not do the heavy lifting WRT finance, and that’s generally really good advice for newbies. But in my most humble of opinions, that is not appropriate for your situation. This marriage is not salvageable, she’s a manipulative and controlling PITA and seems to have some strange hold and control over every thought you have.
Rock - you are coming to this site to get your answers and find your happiness. But your happiness won’t come from us, or her, or a lawyer.
It will ONLY finally come when you have enough self love and respect to draw a line in the sand.
The answer is right in front of you. You just have to stop hiding from it.
