Congratulations about work. Good job! Literally! Haha. Nice to see Rockon2.0 more and more the man in the mirror.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I have a mental challenge/hurdle in that we are in negotiation stage and yet I don’t want to do the heavy lifting in dividing our assets.
I understand not wanting to do the heavy lifting. Heck, I didn’t want to sign my separation agreement. I didn’t want a lot of the stuff that happened. “Wanting” is feeling. Look to your logic and reason. I signed my agreement because I knew it was needed and a good deal, and I completely felt differently.
My advice is: Leave the heavy lifting to the spouse who wants out. However, if you need financial protection or security, take charge and get it.
I think you are needing financial security and stability in your life. (Note, needing not wanting. So do what is required.)
If you’re reading along with MistyDD’s thread, I talked about how the LBS is in a battle with themselves. Heartbreak / loss of romantic love is like that of heroin withdrawal, the LBS will make and follow all kinds of poor decisions in effort to get their next “fix”. I’ve been there, and suffered greatly.
You know, and you feel. And they are likely not congruent. That’s ok. That’s normal.
It’s a most difficult battle. And make no mistake, it is a battle! Yet, you are not weaponless. Intellect, logic and reason, is your sword and shield.
Feelings will stir. Follow your reasoning. Stay on course.
You got this.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
