How long to try when it was (mostly) your fault?

[Sunflyer]

Rushton:

I didn't know your story until your thread was revived, but congratulations!

You handled this as well as anyone in your situation could.

I admit that it's still a mystery to me why some like your W have a sudden epiphany while others never do. Realizing that perhaps the person they fell in love with is still in there, even if they appeared hidden, and if given the chance, that person can re-emerge.