Where do you see yourself in ten years from now - still coming to an internet forum with random people to ask whether you should say “Hello” or “Greetings” on your next email to her? Or whether to wear black or white socks next time she comes to the house?
You need to read the Buridan’s Paradox:
A donkey, who is hungry and thirsty, stands equidistant from a pale of water 5 metres on his left, and a bale of hay 5m on his right. He is so unable to make a decision on which one he should go to first, he remains paralysed and dies from starvation and dehydration.
That’s you. You’ve been here so long now, and you still can’t make a simple decision. DBing forum isn’t for advice every day on every tiny little decision to try and trick your spouse back - it’s about learning to do it FOR YOURSELF. Growing up. Trusting yourself. Being a man.
I don’t think you should be coming here for financial settlement advice, given you are incapable of making a strong plan and being resolute with your ex-wife.
That’s why you have a lawyer. They know the rules in your jurisdiction, they know what you are likely to end up with, and they can take the weight of dealing with a PITA witch off your hands.
On average, you only get 80 laps around the sun and you die. How much longer you going to waste on this?
