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[Rockon]

Taking some time this weekend out in the wild to reflect rest and refresh. Some prayer, exercise, exertion and rest and solitude. Doing some reading.

I had been working everyday since new years getting ready for the school term as well as other work. Everything altogether was a lot with staying on track with my wellness and healthy habits I have established but I am there. But has it ever been good to take these last 2 weekends off and get away!

DnJ etc I’d like to seek your input and advice. So far I have been putting my plans in place and have undertaken a healthy approach to my finances etc while following though on my legal responsibilities and sticking with what was working reasonably well in how I was managing my separate finances as well cooperating on the shared financial picture with W.

L is drafting the separation agreement and I consider this stage to be where W and I have a chance to negotiate so that we can inform what goes into that separation agreement.

So far, W has balked at my email inviting her to send me her proposal for me to look at even after I clairified that I meant - how she proposed to split up our marital assets.

Here I hopefully get to my question. When I told W be email that I was at the place in my return to work where I am able and want to cover the whole mortgage, she said she thought that was too much to ask of me and she contributed half the mortgage to our shared account as she has been doing. I have reached out to L to navigate this and would like to read your perspective.

Here is what I think I do from here while awaiting input from L:

I continue at this stage to contribute the whole amount of mortgage and accept W contributing 1/2 and I cover utilities maintenance and upkeep of the home. If the shared mortgage funds become adequate I can propose that we take a break from contributing.

What do you see as the best way to manage the tenant rental income ? Tenants rent a suite in the marital home. So far that rental income has gone into our shared account and we have budgeted from that for shared expenses. Would you suggest I propose a change with that?

Thanks for giving this some thought with me as you have some time and from your experience.