I'm listening R2C. I did see that post, and I watched several of his videos more than once.

I recognize D will not solve the issues within myself that I've been working on.

I don't want D, but there comes a point when you have to do something even if you don't want to.

Originally Posted by Ready2Change
She needs someone "stronger" than her to lead her through whatever she is going through

I agreed with this right up until the point she confessed to infidelity. For 2 years her behavior was wayward and I worked on being the oak and learning about leading in relationship. She would often say "you're the rock and I'm the balloon". But finding out about the PA and the lying, and observing her behavior for the last 5 months, I don't believe she is interested in change.